Never judge people by their appearences

One beautiful spring day a red rose blossomed in a forest. Many trees and plants also grew there. As the rose looked around, a pine tree nearby said, "what a beautiful flower, I wish I was that lovely." Another tree replied, "dear pine, don't be sad, we can't have everything."

The rose turned its head and remarked, "it seems that I am the most beautiful plant in this forest." A sunflower raised its yellow head and asked, "why do you say that? There are many beautiful plants in this forest. You are just one of them." Red rose replied, "I see everyone looking at me and admiring me."

Then the rose looked at a cactus and said, "look at that ugly plant full of thorns!"

Pine tree said, "red rose, what kind of talk is this? Who can say what beauty is? You also have many thorns.

The proud red rose looked angrily and said, "I thought you had good taste, but you don't actually know what beauty is at all. You can't compare my thorns to that cactus one"

What a proud flower, thought another trees.

The rose tried to move its roots away from the cactus, but it couldn't move. As days passed, the red rose looked at the cactus and saying insulting things, "this plant is useless, how sorry I am to be his neighbor"

The cactus never got upset and he even tried to advise the rose, "God didn't create any form of life without a purpose."

Spring passed, the weather became very warm and life became difficult in the forest, as the plants and animals needed water but no rain fell. The red rose began wilt.

One day, the rose saw sparrows stick their beaks into the cactus and then fly away, refreshed. This was puzzling, and the rose asked the pine tree, what the birds were doing. The pine tree explained, "the birds got water from the cactus".

"Doesn't it hurt when they make holes?" asked the rose.

"Yes, but the cactus doesn't like to see the birds suffer," replied the pine.

The red rose opened its eyes in wonder and said, "the cactus has water."

"Yes, you can also drink from it. The sparrow can bring water to you if you ask cactus for help", answered the pine tree.

The red rose felt too ashamed of its past word and behavior to ask for water from the cactus, but the rose finally did ask the cactus for help. The cactus kindly agreed and the birds filled their beaks with water and watered the rose's roots. Thus, the rose learned a lesson and never judge anyone by their appearance again.

Therefore, in order to judge person exactly, it's really important for us to spent a longer time in getting along with him or her, so that we can have a deep knowledge about his/her personality. One more thing, judging other by their external appearance also mean that you lack respect and admiration for them. Furthermore, external appearance differs from one to another, so we can't set it as a main factor to draw a conclusion about a person. For example, there're many kinds of skin color in this world and if we judge people through these criteria, it'll easily cause international racism and conflicts, more seriously, it can lead to a war.

Thank you for standing by me through thick and thin

Once upon a time not long a go, I have a very not nice conversation with one of my best friend. In the middle of cold pass midnight, we are talking about my life. As you know, my life’s sucks. So it was a goddamned sucks conversations! We are talking about how can I ever did some decision before. About the price that cost me for making those choices. About every absu’fucking’lutely things that happened to me after it. About the effects that come after it.

I believe that she did it for her concern of me. And I really appreciate it. It is hard to find such good friend like her. The willingness that she has to receive every pain that I have is way over touching me. She is the perfect listener that I had for that moment. When burdens are too heavy for me to handle by myself, she is the first thing that is need, a friend to listen.

It just that, there are things in my life that I am not ready to share to anyone else. There is certain burden that I am not yet ready to tell even to someone I trusted most. The pain that so heavy for even it is too hard for me to let it out from my mouth. Things that are there for me to cry on and on for there is nothing else I can do.

I wonder, is it just me, or you too feel that there are things in your life that you are not willing anyone to know? Things that you are too afraid to admit? Some past situation that you are desperately avoid to talking about to anyone but your own thought? Things that haunted you all the times and you know that the solution is to tell anyone, but you never did that. Things that are in the top of your tongue, but never released in any conversations.

Do we always have to carry all that pain by ourselves? Or do we have to let someone we trust to know? Do we strong enough to just pull out the trash form our brain and spare it to the floor? Or do we have to swallow all of that trash again and hurt our tongue for the trash is sharp enough to cut our throat?

I don’t know. I’m not yet found the answer. But I promise you my friend, when I know I will tell you the answer. After that, maybe I can start thinking about the best way for me to allow you to sit in and listen to my life’s story.

By the way, what you have done was helping me enough for now. And I thank you for being there and asking. Once again, thank you for that after hour conversation.